3 Reminders For the Mom Who Needs A Friend
As a new mom i’m always reflecting on my own journey. Reassurance has been one of the main things that has kept me going during the tough days. I hope these little reminders help you keep your strength.
Three Reminders to Keep Your Strength.
1. Your Child Chose You - You Are Enough
This statement in itself holds so much power. Your child, this miraculous gift, is here because of you.
When I think back on this statement it helps to remind me that regardless of the countless intruding thoughts - I will always be enough for my child - and you will always be enough for your child.
Your child sees you for who you are and loves you unconditionally. They don’t see the mistakes you’ve made or the cleaning that needs to be done. They see you trying everyday, they see your smile and the loving comfort you give them. They don’t need you to be perfect they chose you to learn from you and grow with you. You will always be enough for them.
2. Take Space - We Know You’re Strong
I know you're strong, that is undeniable, you’re a mother, a caregiver, you carry the greatest strength. I also know that allowing yourself to not feel so strong all the time is challenging. I’ll be the first to say that stripping myself of the strength I feel as a mother and allowing myself to feel raw was hard for me - it still can be. I wanted to feel like I had it all together all the time because heaven forbid that I crumble from time to time as a new mom, right? No, this is wrong, It is okay to crumble and to give yourself the privilege of feeling through your emotions.
Motherhood is mentally and physically trying on our bodies and minds. There will be moments where it comes to feel all too much. When these come - and they will - take the space you need to release and regroup.
3. Ask for help - It Will Make A Difference
For many people, asking for help is like admitting to failure. I’m here to kindly remind you that although you are capable you are not expected to, nor should you, do this on your own. It is no easy feat being a mom.
Hands down - being a mother is the toughest job I’ve ever had, asking for help is the second. I know how conflicting it can feel, I hear you. It’s a battle between wanting someone’s help but not wanting anyone over. Needing the dishes or the laundry washed but being too afraid to ask. It’s an ongoing internal fight.
I help manage this silent battle by asking for help in the ways that feel right for me from the people who know me best. Sometimes this looks like having someone over, sometimes it is a Skype call with a family member, and sometimes it is me showing up at a friend’s home. Choose what feels best for you.
You are NOT admitting failure by asking for help - I promise you. It takes a village for a reason.
Please reach out if you need a friend, I am always a lending ear and an open heart.
Leave a comment below sharing how parenthood is going for you so far.
Xx Nikki
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